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How To Tell If Someone Is Lying |
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Written by Word About
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Thursday, 31 May 2007 |
How to tell if he's lying when he tells you he isn't married
It's a surprising and sad fact that people lie all the time even when they don't need to. Why they do it is a mystery to me but the vast majority of people will lie to you at some point. Often it's small lies that make little or no difference to you or maybe someone is trying to protect you from something and you wouldn't want to hear the truth anyway.
It's the big lies that you need to be aware of and it's well worth a little of your time to learn how you can detect when you're being lied to.
Some people are better at lying than others and it's important that you get to know your suspect a little when he isn't lying so that you can compare his responses when he does start lying. Some people are naturaly nervous or make little eye contact but that doesn't automaticaly mean that they're lying to you. You need to look out for changes in the way they behave which is the secret to becoming a human lie detector.
The first thing you must do to detect a liar is to get them talking. Ask them about things that they are unlikely to lie about. "Did it rain today?" and "where is the bathroom?" are both examples of questions that are verifiable and undisputable. In normal conversation lots of these kinds of questions come up and you should listen carefully to the way he answers you and observe his physical reactions.
When you have gotten to know this person when they aren't lying it's time to ask the more important questions. If this is someone you recently met and you're thinking of becoming romanticaly involved then you might want to find out whether he's married or not. So ask him the question and observe the reaction. When you've gotten to know someone and made an effort to learn how they react when they're not lying it's often glaringly obvious when their behaviour suddenly changes because they're lying now, especialy if you're looking out for it.
Some things to look out for that indicate someone might be lying:
- He breaks eye contact and looks away
- The pitch of his voice changes
- He hesitates
- He turns his body away from however slightly
- Nervous body movements or fidgeting
- More than adequate detail in his descriptions
- Speaking more rapidly than usual
- Sweating
- Color changes in his face
- Using fewer contractions like "I am not married" rather than "I'm not married"
- Repeating your words back to you exactly as you said them
With a little practice and provided you keep your suspect talking for long enough you can become a good human lie detector. You may even spot things that he tells you that you know are lies because they contradict something he told you earlier or that you know from personal experience to be untrue. It's actualy very difficult to maintain lies consistantly for any lenght of time so the longer he talks the more chance you'll detect any lies.
These techniques and more are explained in the ebook Detect Deceit. This book can truly turn you into a human lie detector so you'll never get caught out by a liar again.
If you're concerned about whether you're new boyfriend is telling you the truth about not being married why not check him out with an online background check at Government-Records.com. It's a quick and easy way to find out if someone is married and a lot more information about them at the same time.
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Last Updated ( Tuesday, 05 June 2007 )
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